This and That

First, an update.  Many of you will remember my spotty, scarred old toaster from my last post (Ch-ch-ch-changes).  After the new toaster came to live with us, the old toaster took up residence on our dining room windowsill.  There it achieved the status normally accorded a fine piece of artwork; an impressionist-style sculpture, if you will.  Jasper asked me when we were getting rid of it and I shrugged.  What was the rush?

The truth is, I was having trouble letting go.  Yes, it was a ratty old thing, but it wasn't hurting anybody or taking up (too much) space.  It still worked when treated the right way.  It kind of reminded me of myself, actually.  Scarred up and somewhat spotty, but still capable of working, occasionally, when things are going well...

This symbolism was utterly lost on Jasper, who got tired of waiting for me to act and deposited the sad old thing here:

so long, toaster of mine

That point you see in the lower white portion of the bag on the right is the toaster.  Sigh.  Rest in Peace, beloved toaster.

Second, life has been crazy here -- hence no recent posts.  I'd feel really guilty about that, but I know my reading audience is predominately my mom (Hi, mom!) and a few friends, and I figure ya'll can deal with it.

Seriously, though, between the end of school and lousy weather and massive computer problems and several minor crises, I have not been getting very much done.  This, plus a slump into PTSD-inspired lack of motivation, has left me feeling more than a bit slow of late.  You know, like life is speeding by and I'm only catching glimpses of it as it passes, much too late to do anything about it.  Sort of like this:

me on a bad day last week

Other days it seemed I was in the center of the craziness, perhaps acting as the LSD-inspired director of my own comedic failure.  On these days I found myself thinking of the odd-pipe-instrument-playing Bunnies & Dolls Man we saw in Barcelona:

me on a manic day last week

Having the kids home from school added a whole new dimension to my normal craziness.  And, in tried-and-true motherhood fashion, there were several days where I blamed my insanity on them.

do we get a discount if the parents and/or children are already nuts?

Too make matters worse, my new &%$#@! excellent exercise routine, far from helping me feel better, was only serving to exhaust me quicker and earlier as each day went by.  The lowlights of this were the day I pitched a minor hissy-fit to the amusement of several neighbours as I dragged Bubba away from some other dog's poop which he was trying to eat -- do I not have enough poop in my life? -- and the day I was attempting to train him to run next to me while I bicycled.  That ended with me flying tush over head over handlebars.

the best-looking of the resultant bruises

But then the weekend came and I had a good workout.  A really good workout.  Small and puny compared to others of you, I'm sure, but for me it was stupendous.  I hit a new level, broke through a barrier with my aerobic training, made it all the way through my current weights routine without dying, and proceeded to have a very productive day.  Best of all, the next day's workout was just as good!  And I wasn't exhausted!  The fact that I didn't need a nap or want to go to bed at 7 p.m. for two days straight is, for me, phenomenal.  A not-so-minor miracle.

Is it the exercise beginning to pay off?  The prayers I've been uttering much more regularly again?  A lifting of the depression?  Grace being extended?

Probably all of that, and more.

And I needed all of it as Bubba blessed my day this morning by puking all over the living room rug just as we needed to get out the door for an appointment.

still pretty cute for being such a pain in the hiney

Oh well; here's to more of "this" and less of "that".

Some changes are coming to Feisty Broad; a re-vamp of the site will hopefully make it more user-friendly.  Actually, to heck with user-friendly.  I'm hoping it will make it more Broad-friendly!

Ch-ch-ch-changes

For some reason my mother and my husband's cousin think we need a new toaster.  I don't see it, personally.  Sure, there are a few superficial dings on the poor thing, but it still works!  Mostly.  You just have to jiggle the browning knob in the right direction and keep an eye on your bread in process -- don't flip for longer than 20 seconds -- and it's all fine.  Even Little Toot has the process mastered.  So why should we get a new one?

Our much-maligned toaster

This one has character, and history.  Not an incredibly long history, but history nonetheless.  It was purchased in haste about six days after arriving in the Netherlands, as Jasper ran through the store grabbing the absolute essentials.  This was two days after I was admitted to the hospital for emergency surgery (my fifth) and a day after finding out our belongings were being held hostage in Rotterdam due to a paperwork problem.  The many white spaces are from me scrubbing the blasted thing to rid it of the sticky feeling the plastic casing seems to attract; the deep gash is from my mother moving a hot pat too close to it during one of my hospital stays, and the flame-shaped mark is from one of the university students who stayed here while we were in Barcelona; she turned the gas up high in the burner next to the toaster.

Like I said, it has character.

But mostly I'm used to it.  I know its tricks, know how to treat it, know what to do with it.  It might be a pain, but it's MY pain and I can deal with it.  Who knows what a new, pretty, proper toaster might do with our bread?

Unfortunately, fate has dealt us a cruel blow.  K, the above-mentioned cousin, and her husband and beautiful son are moving from Belgium -- where they have lived a mere two hours away from us for the past three years -- back to Canada.  We're sad about them leaving, sure, but the real issue is that K has bequeathed her new, pretty, proper toaster on us.

What am I supposed to do with this?

It's not sticky, won't melt, and actually toasts bread.  What the heck am I supposed to do with it???

Change is hard, even when it is good, or even needed.  Some of us are better at rolling with the punches, taking what comes our way.  Others of us need time to adjust.  And sometimes, whether we want the change or not, whether we're easy-going or uptight, change is just downright hard.

Over the past couple of weeks I have been asked several times how I'm feeling, how the latest surgery turned out, what I'm able to eat now, what the next step is.  I made no secret going into this surgery that I was hoping and praying it would be my last, that I had had enough, that I was ready, willing, and prepared to do whatever need be afterward to be healthy and -- hopefully -- avoid further problems.  Now, on the other side, I have to live up to those words, to that desire, and it means some changes which I'm finding difficult.

The hardest outward change is the exercise.  I've always tried to exercise and be healthy.  At various times in my life I've run, walked, done aerobics, biked.  Most recently I've done Pilates and yoga, a lot of walking and biking, and basically trying to be more active.  Now, however, my internist has informed me that the exhaustion I have been increasingly fighting for the past few years is not "simply" due to illness and stress, although those are obviously major factors in the equation.  She thinks my body has aged too rapidly due to all the surgeries and medications over the past eight years.  In short, my body thinks it is 50 or so, while I, in actuality, just turned 40.  Of primary concern is my bone density, despite the amount of calcium I ingest.  The treatment?  Intensive weigh-training three times a week, in addition to my other exercise, a careful diet, maintenance meds, and so forth.

Yeah.  Um, weight-training.  This is so not how I want to spend a significant chunk of time three days a week.

The harder change, however, is the internal change.  Because, as bizarre as it may sound, I have gotten used to Sickness Mode and even Crisis Mode.  I know what to do, how to make myself rest, how to not plan too far ahead (and not from a healthier "be here now" perspective, either!).  I know how not to get too excited, how to be careful, how to monitor every tiny change in my appetite, sleep, output (that means poop, people), mood, hormones, emotions.  I know the ups and downs of PTSD intimately.  And as much as I want out of these modes, as much as I want my life back -- or, dare I hope for it? -- even a better life, this way of thinking about things, this way of life, has been "normal" for so long that I am not even sure I know how to change it, or if I can -- or if I even totally want to.

Of course I want to.  It's just that I've gotten used to the stickiness, gashes, and melted spots.   I'm used to it.  I know its tricks, know how to treat it, know what to do with it.  It might be a pain, but it's MY pain and I can deal with it.  Who knows what a different life might bring?

Wait, I got a bit confused there.  Was I talking about my health or my toaster?

Either way, change is happening.  And change is, in this case, not only wanted but needed.

So here's to change: may it bring health, may it reside in strength, may it not hurt too, too much, and may it not forget the lessons I have learned and benefits I have gained.  To change!

What internal barriers to needed change are you harboring?